Archive for September, 2011

I really do think I have been given the best gifts in the world in Angel & Christal. They are precious, kind, servant-hearted, smart and just generally awesome. They are constantly trying to find the good in circumstances and people. For instance, Christal’s soccer team lost their game on Saturday. While they were huddled up Christal told the team, “It’s ok guys, we did our best.” If you know Christal at all, you know that in Christal’s world everyone’s a winner and things are usually all rainbows and unicorn milk.

So last night after I got home from soccer practice Angel skipped into the garage to tell me that she spent her time writing encouraging notes to the duty teachers. I asked if there was a special occasion. She said, “no, but they have to get to work so early and I think this is a good way to start their day. Besides, it helps me learn more verses. It’s a win, win!”

I could learn loads from my girls. I pray they never lose the gift of encouragement they are to those around them. I just love them so much!!


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Parenting Is Hard…

I will dedicate my first couple of sentences of this post to acknowledging the fact that I haven’t posted since February 1st.  That would be right about eight and a half months. I’ve been busy what can I say…

I know I’ve mentioned before that parenting is hard. I mean for real… parenting is HARD! Back before I was a parent, I knew everything. I could look at a situation and know exactly what the parent should do. I can’t count the number of trips I took with teenagers when a 6th grade girl would join the club of womanhood and have no idea what was going on. Oh how I wanted to shake parents for not having “the talk” with their kids. I couldn’t even begin to imagine what was so bad. Well, I’m here to tell you it ain’t as easy as it looks!

 A pastor friend of mine once said that if you don’t have “the talk” with your child by the time they are nine, you’re too late. They will start hearing it from someone else. With that in mind I was a responsible mother and made sure that when both girls turned nine we went to a Body Basics class and had dinner to discuss the birds and the bees. It wasn’t horrible, but I was way more nervous than I expected.

With the basics behind me I just knew we were good to go. We have random conversations every now and then where I can correct misinformation the girls get from friends. I’m loving the open line of communication. However, I have discovered recently that “the talk” isn’t a one time thing. Should we be so lucky… Oh no, sex is everywhere around us. Some of the most scandalous sex talk is in the Bible. Which I discovered when we were having Bible study and my amazing leaders let me know the Scripture ahead of time. I looked them over and there was no getting around it, I had to talk to Angel before we had Community Group.

I called her into my room, explained that we needed to have a life lesson chat and I jumped right in. I read the verses that discussed God letting people have their way in sin… men will have unnatural relations with men, women will have unnatural relations with women… you get the point. So there I was having to explain homosexuality to my almost twelve-year-old. In order for me to explain what  is natural I had to explain clearly what is natural and God’s  plan.  For some reason when you’re sitting in front of your child it’s not just Science. You can try as hard as you may to make everything proper and biological, but inevitably it becomes personal.  She asked if Matt & I have sex and I had to be honest with her. I almost died a million deaths, but if we can have an open communication and she understand God’s plan, it’s worth my mortification.

I want my kids to have a healthy, Godly view of sex. At whatever the cost… my pride, the awkwardness, the hard to talk about subjects. I’ll get over all of it to make sure my kids know what God intends for them. They won’t hate it, it won’t be taboo, it won’t be in a list of things they can’t do. I want it to be beautiful and something that they can always talk to me about. In order for that to happen I have to pray constantly and seeking God’s grace and direction.

Did I mention parenting is hard?

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